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Author Name: PremiumIbeBecky 11 Comments
Date Added: December 19, 2004 05:12:42 Average Score: (Needs 2)
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A Real Woman.....

A real woman is proud and strong. She respects herself and others who have earned her respect. She is aware of who she is. She does not seek definition from the person she chooses to be with, nor does she expect them to read her thoughts. She establishes her own identity as a valuable human being. She is quite capable of articulating her wants and needs. She has no fear in seeking guidance from others when she is feeling vulnerable, weak or frail. She must understand that we were all placed on this earth for each other; at times, we all need help.

A real woman is always hopeful. She has within herself, the ability to make all her dreams come true on her own. She knows love; therefore she gives love without measure. She realizes there is an undeniable, true beauty in “wearing her heart on her sleeve”. However, she recognizes that her love has exceptional value; it must be reciprocated. She carries her wealth in her heart. Her love is the most beautiful gift that she can give to another human being. If her love is taken for granted, misused or abused, it will certainly diminish. It will die a slow and painful death.

A real woman has a wealth of inspiration and a great deal of endurance; she is steadfast and able. She knows that she will, at times, need to inspire others to reach their full potential and show them how to use their abilities resourcefully. This is where ‘tough love’ played its role in my parenting, My Angels. You thought I was being unfair; I was merely trying to guide and teach you to accept nothing less than what you deserve!

A real woman knows and faces her past, understands her present and battles toward a hopeful future. She does not live in fear of the future because of her past, no matter what the past may hold. Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons that were meant to bring her closer to self-knowledge, unconditional self-love and understanding. If you cannot learn to completely know and understand yourself; you will never find anyone else who can or will.

You are your own best friend; you always will be. Until you grasp onto these concepts, you will not find a way to give your heart away completely or to share your love in the way that it was meant to be.

With love, to my Daughters, Fawn and Amber (1993)

Author's Notes:

I wrote this piece for my two beautiful Daughters, Fawn and Amber, in 1993. At that time, Fawn was only 19 years old and already had a beautiful daughter. She was engaged to marry the Father of her daughter, who I absolutely adored and still do to this day. Unfortunately, Fawn never married him. A monumental mistake she made in not doing so.

He is still very much in love with her and to this day, is still waiting for her to come back to him. Had she gone along with their original plans, I have no doubt that her life would have been a very happy one. This man treated her with all of the respect and dignity that any woman could possibly ask for. He is a wonderful Father to their Daughter, but also treats her two other Daughters that she had when she married someone else (this marriage failed) as though they are his own. Since parting with him, she has made some VERY poor choices, but she still does carry a love for him, but feels that they are too good of 'friends' to be in a romantic relationship again. I keep trying to tell her that this is the PERFECT foundation.

Amber was only 13 years old at the time this was written. She was very confused about her Sister's relationship and why she did not follow through with her plans. The entire family adored this man.

This is merely a recap of what I have learned throughout the years; something that I tried to pass onto my Daughters. I've always wanted them to be the best people they could be, 'play fairly' with others and tread lightly when it comes to other people's hearts and emotions.

Most of all, I wanted them to have good self-esteem and be happy with themselves as individuals. I'm a firm believer that you cannot depend upon other people to make you happy. Happiness must come from within yourself so that you can share it with others.

This was my message to my Girls.

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Comment By: Freejoey on July 17, 2005 05:02:41 AM Report
Do you know where I can find one lol
great job you earn that award 100%
Comment By: ModeratorJillian K. Alexis on May 28, 2005 04:08:40 PM Report
What a beautiful message u have left for your' daughters, and for all who read this wonderful piece. I really enjoyed reading this. Congrats on your' award Rebecca...Jillian
Comment By: FreeLady Literary on May 26, 2005 10:29:34 PM Report
Beautifully written, and VERY inspirational. I enjoyed every word. Congrats on your award.
Comment By: FreeSweetSunshine on May 26, 2005 12:15:07 PM Report
You love for them is obvious in your words, and they are blessed to have a mother such as you. Your words are very honest and wise and I think many women need to hear them. Beautiful write, and a big congratulations on your award :)

warm hugz,
Comment By: FreeSamantha Firefly on May 24, 2005 05:07:18 AM Report
Great message, very well written and expressed. Congratulations on the award.
Comment By: PremiumLindaM on May 24, 2005 12:12:26 AM Report
This is a wonderful inspirational message
and beautifully penned. Congrats on winning
the award.
Comment By: FreeJeff on May 23, 2005 10:15:13 PM Report
Very deserving...congratulations.

Comment By: FreeAlison Storm Wolf on May 23, 2005 09:44:03 PM Report
welll done Becky! this is so full of inspirational truth indeed. The most important things we can leave our kids cannot be bought with money!
Congratulations. Alison SW
Comment By: FreeFLETCHER on May 9, 2005 05:01:57 AM Report
Amazing! Excelent write. Your Daughters are truly blessed to have you in their lives. Yours ..............Fletch
Comment By: Freecrying wolfe on December 28, 2004 01:34:07 PM Report
Well, this is a super inspirational write for your daughters and any woman alive in this mother has always told me that I am my own best friend....she used to tell me that when I was so young and rebelious...I now understand what that means....she also used to tell me that I will some day realize that my parents are my only real best friends....everyone else will leave my side in my life and they will be there to catch me for the know...she was right....I am looking forward to getting to know have a strength inside you I long to have and used to have...please keep posting and I will keep reading....

Comment By: TrialAnn on December 19, 2004 08:35:11 AM Report
This is a wonderful tribute to the woman in general and what we all can aspire to as men or women. I hope your daughters learn from it. Nicely done.


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